Meet Michelle Obama—former First Lady, bestselling author, podcast host, and now, an official relationship guru. Seriously, what can’t she do?
In the recent episode of The Michelle Obama Podcast, she and guest, famous Hollywood host, Conan O’Brien discussed their respective long-term marriages and served up advice for those dating in 2020. AKA, she literally asked us to get off dating apps. Yup, you read it correct.
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Last week on The #MichelleObamaPodcast, Conan and I reflected on our marriages. This relationship can be one of the most foundational pieces of our identities—bringing us so much joy, meaning, and support every single day. But one thing is for sure: It also takes a lot of work; a lot of honesty with ourselves and our partners. That’s one thing I’ve learned. I’d love to hear some of the things you’ve learned about marriage and about yourself. Let me know in the comments. ❤
The conversation revolved around the differences men and women may form about marriage and their readiness for commitment. Michelle recalled that while she “always knew” marriage was in her future, Barack “had a different view” because of his parents’ divorce and grandparents’ “rocky marriage.” O’Brien said he himself wasn’t ready for marriage to his wife Liza Powell until his late 30s.
There’s no magic way to make that happen, except getting the basics of finding somebody
“We’d have better marriages because if you’re looking at a team, the people you want to win with, then number one you want everybody on your team to be strong, right? You don’t want any weak links, you don’t want somebody that you can dominate, you don’t want somebody who’s kind of a loser. Also, if you’re on a team, you’ve got to be able to do everything, especially in basketball, it’s like, you would never pick somebody that says, ‘I only dribble. I don’t shoot, I don’t defend, I just dribble.'” Wheww.
Michelle even said that marriage is built on commitment and hard work. So her quick advice is to.. wait for it… step away from the dating apps.
“Do you want to build something with someone? There’s no magic way to make that happen, except getting the basics of finding somebody, being honest about wanting to be with them, to date them seriously, to plan on making a commitment, to date them, seeing where it goes, and then making it happen,” Michelle concluded, coyly adding, “You can’t Tinder your way into a long term relationship.” Okurr Michelle. Ladies and gents, take note.